What do narcissists look like?
They expect others to do the day-to-day chores as they feel too important to waste their time on common things.
They very rarely talk about their inner life – for example their memories and dreams.
They feel that rules at work don’t apply to them.
Their sense of self-importance and lack of empathy means that they will often interrupt the conversation of others.
They get impatient and restless when the topic of conversation is about someone else and not about them.
They constantly use “I”, “me” and “my” when they talk.
They lack empathy (identify with another person's feelings) and this colors everything they do.
They love to delegate work, and then interfere by micromanaging it. If it goes well they take the credit (plagiarism); if it goes badly, they blame the person they delegated it to.
Blame others for their actions and misfortunes.
During a conversation, no matter what topic is being discussed, they usually end up talking about themselves.
They will always cheat whenever they think they will get away with it.
Virtually all their ideas or ways of behaving in a given situation are taken from others.
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From Children of the Self Absorbed: A Grownup’s Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown
Turns every conversation to himself or herself.
Expects you to meet his or her emotional needs.
Ignores the impact of his negative comments on you.
Constantly criticizes or berates you and knows what is best for you.
Focuses on blaming rather than taking responsibility for his own behavior.
Expects you to jump at his every need.
Is overly involved with his own hobbies, interests or addictions and ignores your needs.
Has a high need for attention.
Brags, sulks, complains, inappropriately teases and is flamboyant, loud and boisterous.
Is closed minded about own mistakes. Can’t handle criticism and gets angry to shut it off.
Becomes angry when his needs are not met and throws tantrums or intimidates.
Has an attitude of “anything you can do, I can do better.”
Engages in one-upmanship to seem important.
Acts in a seductive manner or is overly charming.
Is vain and fishes for compliments. Expects you to admire him.
Isn’t satisfied unless he has the “biggest” or “best.”
Seeks status. Spends money to impress others.
Forgets what you have done for them yet keeps reminding you that you owe them today.
Neglects the family to impress others. Does it all: Is a super person to gain admiration.
Threatens to abandon you if you don’t go along with what he wants.
Does not obey the law—sees himself above the law.
Does not expect to be penalized for failure to follow directions or conform to guidelines.
Ignores your feelings and calls you overly sensitive or touchy if you express feelings.
Tells you how you should feel or not feel.
Cannot listen to you and cannot allow your opinions.
Is more interested in his own concerns and interests than yours.
Is unable to see things from any point of view other than his own.
Wants to control what you do and say.
Attempts to make you feel stupid, helpless and inept when you do things on your own.
Has poor insight and can not see the impact his selfish behavior has on you.
Has shallow emotions and interests.
Exploits others with lies and manipulations.
Uses emotional blackmail to get what he wants.
May engage in physical or sexual abuse of children.
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