Sunday, May 13, 2012

Emotionally Hungry Parents

According to Robert Firestone's article Emotional Hunger vs. Love.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-human-experience/200902/emotional-hunger-vs-love

Emotionally hungry parents try to feed their need for attachment and connection by over-protecting their children, which can emotionally cripple their children and limit their ability to get along with others. Emotionally hungry parents who are also overly concerned about their own physical health can create excessive worry about illness, disease or death in their children.  Some overly protective parents try to isolate their children from peers and others outside the family who they think might be negative influences. This can limit the child in his or her exposure to a variety of different attitudes and approaches to life. The children of emotionally hungry parents have trouble trusting other people and functioning in the world. 

Many emotionally hungry parents violate their children's personal boundaries by inappropriately touching them, going through their belongings, reading their mail, and requiring them to perform for friends and relatives. This keeps the child from developing independence and personal freedom. Many emotionally hungry mothers and fathers speak for their children, take over their productions as their own, brag excessively about their accomplishments, and attempt to live through their children.

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