Some parents in unhappy homes want their children to take
care of them, provide them with emotional support, wait on them hand and foot,
and be ready at their beck and call, while taking care of household
responsibilities and their younger siblings. Fighting parents in unhappy homes
sometimes look to their children to be confidantes and to provide the kind of
emotional connection they would normally get from a spouse. This puts enormous
pressure on the child to provide what the parents need while the child’s own
needs are not being met. These young people often grow up to be angry adults
because they’ve not been able to develop as other healthy children do, with
normal attachments with their parents and siblings. As adults they often get
quite angry when put into a position of having to provide the kind of support
for another person that they were forced to provide as a child. They often have
difficulty holding onto friends and establishing intimate relationships.
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